Resources
This page is a curated collection of resources for clients and anyone interested in the areas I specialize in — including sex and love addiction, betrayal trauma, sexual health, and gender-affirming care. Whether you're in therapy or just starting to explore, these materials can support your journey.
If you are looking for specific recommendations, please ask during our sessions. I am happy to suggest books, podcasts, workbooks, or online tools tailored to what you're working through. The resources here are general starting points.
You can also find articles and written content I've shared on the Articles page, covering topics related to addiction, trauma recovery, relationships, and identity.
Some of my Recommended Readings
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate, M.D. — Dr. Gabor Maté draws on his years treating addiction in Vancouver's Downtown Eastside to reveal addiction not as a moral failing, but as a response to pain and trauma. Compassionate and deeply human, it changes how you see addiction, and the people living with it. Buy Now
Getting Past Your Past by Francine Shapiro, PhD — Francine Shapiro—creator of EMDR therapy—shows how the mind's unprocessed memories keep shaping present-day fear, anxiety, and self-doubt. Practical and grounded in decades of clinical research, it offers real tools to unstick yourself from old pain and move forward. Buy Now
Lesbian Love Addiction by Lauren D. Costine, PhD — Explores how love addiction shows up specifically for lesbian women and offers compassionate tools for understanding and healing it. Buy Now
Lust, Men, and Meth: A Gay Man's Guide to Sex and Recovery by David M. Fawcett, PhD — A practical guide for gay men navigating the intersection of sex, methamphetamine use, and recovery. Buy Now
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie — A classic, approachable guide to recognizing codependency and shifting the focus back to caring for yourself. Buy Now
Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody — Unpacks the patterns behind unhealthy relationships and lays out a path for recovering from love addiction. Buy Now
Erotic Intelligence by Alexandra Katehakis — Reassuring guidance on rebuilding intimacy and a healthy sex life in recovery from sex addiction. Buy Now
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, MD — A landmark look at how trauma reshapes the brain and body, and the paths toward healing. Buy Now
Overcoming Perfectionism by Ann W. Smith — Examines the roots of overt and covert perfectionism and how to move toward balance and self-acceptance. Buy Now
The Velvet Rage by Alan Downs, PhD — A compassionate look at the shame many gay men carry from growing up different, and how to move toward authenticity and self-worth. Buy Now
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, PhD — A science-based, affirming guide to understanding sexual wellbeing and letting go of the myths that get in the way. Buy Now
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel — A thoughtful exploration of how to keep desire and intimacy alive within committed, long-term relationships. Buy Now
Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes, PhD — The foundational guide to understanding sexual addiction and beginning the path to recovery. Buy Now
The Betrayal Bond by Patrick Carnes, PhD — Examines the powerful attachments that form in exploitative relationships and offers tools for breaking free. Buy Now
Recommended 12-Step Groups
Alcoholics Anonymous — aa.org
Narcotics Anonymous — naworks.org
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous — slaafws.org
Sex Addicts Anonymous — saa-recovery.org
Al-Anon — al-anon.org
Co-dependents Anonymous — coda.org
